Chill Pills… Chill Pills For Everyone

OM reblogged this at some point while I was asleep and therefore it ended up on my reader. So I read it. And here’s the thing: I’m not here to address this particular subject of feminism or humanism, or even equality. I’ve expressed enough how I feel about these things and my blog isn’t about preaching for a cause or another.

This post did raise the issue in my head of humor and satire and when I believe it’s gone too far. I’ll repeat that so that there’s no confusion: when I believe it’s gone too far. Personal opinion, yes? Likewise this is not directed to anyone, or in defense of anyone, at most I’m using this situation as an example. I love how I feel obligated to make that clear before I even write anything… Thank you, internet, for making me even more neurotic. *snort*

A while ago there was that issue with that blogger, let’s not name him, in which I expressed some… ehem… strong dislike for his ‘satire’. These articles addressed on this post, however, don’t offend me. Even if for the most part I didn’t laugh at them either… Well, okay, I laughed a little but that’s what usually happens when I imagine anyone slammed on the face by a door. 😛

The difference between the two is that the man who must not be named here, took someone’s personal photos, edited them and then went ‘haha it’s satire, you can’t complain’ and I personally consider that type of humor to be a) an invasion of privacy (even if the photos were online, yes), b) ill-intentioned and c) not funny in any possible use of the word. It looks to me as the internet equivalent of pulling someone’s pants down in public. It’s possible someone will laugh, but that doesn’t mean it should be okay to do it. I believe this is the only type of situation I will say that ‘humor’ is not acceptable; when it can truly be harmful to one single individual.

Other than that I think people need to learn to accept humor for what it is and be a little more chill about it. Even if it’s offensive. Especially when it’s offensive. Humor is meant for a part of our brains that is oblivious or uncaring to implications, people don’t make a joke expecting someone to read or hear their words and think “OMG, you are RIGHT!”. People make jokes expecting to be laughed at, either because the joke is funny or the fact that someone would write such nonsense is.

I remember this Valentines day card being pulled from Target a while back…

Pfffft… Stalker is a much better word. >.>

…For ‘making light’ of something that is no laughing matter. Okay, well, shit… Is it offensive for Wifey and I to have created Stalkers Day, then? Have we… have we… encouraged the wrong kind of crazy here? I feel like I need a disclaimer of some sort…

Ehem…

KIDS, STALKING IS ONLY OKAY BETWEEN TWO WILLING PARTICIPANTS. RESTRAINING ORDERS ARE USUALLY A GREAT INDICATOR OF UNWILLINGNESS.

How… How was that? Was that good? ^.-

Clearly, I don’t think actual stalking is funny in any way. I am aware that it ruins lives and in extreme cases may lead to rape and/or murder. I’m not condoning it and I’m honestly not expecting anyone to read my posts and assume that I am because; common sense much?

Yes some crazy person may read my posts or look at a card like that and feel encouraged, but you know what? A crazy person may also look at a cereal box and think Tony The Tiger is telling them murder is “Grrreat!”, so, yeeeaaah… Excuse me if I’m not losing any sleep over this.

Likewise, I don’t look at OM’s posts and think “oh great, men are going to think it’s okay to be assholes now”, because that would require the entirety of male population to have been born without functioning brain cells… And I’m going to go out on a limb here and say that’s probably not the case. So at worst it’s offensive, but so is 99% of anything written at any given time on the internet.

Me breathing and living a generally happy life is offense to some people (and bots) out there, I’m sure. Doesn’t mean I plan on stopping any time soon.

Personally I am offended by rape jokes, I am offended by dead baby jokes, I am offended by anything that as much implies animal cruelty… Yet I accept that some people find humor in that. I accept that the fact someone jokes about it doesn’t mean they condone it. I’ve met great people who tell some horrible, horrible, jokes. I’ve told my share of them too and if someone were to judge me solely on my jokes they’d probably think I’m sexist, hate blondes, and think Portuguese people are mentally deficient… And that I may or may not want everyone in Argentina dead. And that’s probably not true. >.>

I personally believe that in life when given the choice, laughing at something is a hell of a lot healthier than being angry. I don’t understand why so many people out there choose to be angry or offended at mindless humor, obvious exaggerations, or throwaway jokes on a regular basis.

I also think that sometimes fighting fire with fire makes for a better comeback. I mean, if you’re going to take issue with a humorous post, why not make one in return? At least people will get a laugh while they agree or disagree with you instead of getting pissy in your comments section. 😉

B.B

Women Aren’t Special

Bronies, this applies to you as well.

B.B

Empire of Sludge

I will never shut someone down because of their gender, or think less of them because of it. But I will think less of you, and talk shit to you, about you, if you think it’s okay to say “well you’re only treating me like this because I’m a woman”. That’s bullshit. I don’t care if you’re a woman.

I know not everyone is as apathetic to the so-called “differences” between men and women, but here’s a piece of advice for you if you’ve ever used that phrase or anything remotely like it: most people don’t talk down to you or treat you differently, or less than equal, because of your gender. They just don’t. And you should always operate under that assumption, even when it’s not the case.

The only time you should ever even be thinking “it’s because I don’t have a dick” is when it’s brazen, obvious…

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Equality Isn’t Fair

Alright, before I start writing on my book for the day and lose my ability to care about the real world, lemme respond to this here prompt.

Write a post about what inequality means to you. Have you ever encountered it in your daily life?

First of all let me make it clear that what I’m talking about is how people treat one another on a daily basis, yes? I’m not talking about economic or political issues. 

I hear and read a lot of people advocating Equality. I’m saddened to see that the world’s idea of social equality involves ignoring a person’s differences in order to force acceptance. If you mention a person’s race or sexual orientation, or religion, you are automatically excluding them no matter the context. Likewise, you have to abstain from expressing any aspect of yourself that might, through no fault of your own, be offensive to a random stranger. If you had to ask a perfect stranger if he’s seen a friend of yours and that friend happened to be black, would you be afraid to describe them? If you are, then congratulations: that’s society’s notion of equality.

I remember a long time ago a friend read over my shoulder while I was writing for my RP and he read me write a character referring to the Black Knights of Newhaven as “the Blacks” and he pointed at the screen and said “dude that sounds really wrong out of context.” and that was the last time I wrote it. It had nothing to do with anything, but because he pointed that out to me now I can’t use that term, because it makes me cringe as if I’m doing something wrong. Even if I know I’m not. Months later I found myself making that same comment to my co-GM when he had his character refer to the White Shadows as ‘the Whites’. Why? It has nothing to do with race, it’s the faction’s name. It’s a notion that has been drilled into our subconscious though; that we need to mind our words not to be offensive.

My nephew’s school was, just last year, considering the idea of eliminating fathers’ and mothers’ day celebrations in favor of children who had lost either parent. I lost my dad when I was five and I participated in every Fathers’ Day celebration in every school I attended. I’d take one of my brothers or my mom to parties, should there be one, and I’d send any cards I’d make to my grandpa; it never traumatized me. If you lost a parent, you’re never going to forget that, it’s not the fact that someone asked you to draw a lame card in art class that’s going to remind you.

Inequality is everywhere and inequality is a necessity the way I see it. Have I been treated unfairly in my daily life? Yes, I have. Would I call it inequality? No. On the contrary; I was treated the exact same way as everyone else my whole life.

When I wanted to be excused from math class in high school I was denied, like everyone else. Everyone else was not having an allergy fit. I passed out in the bathroom less than 10 min later because I couldn’t breathe.

I was treated exactly the same way as everyone else in arts class and graded accordingly. Everyone else was not color blind and I was the only student in the school who failed arts that year and had to take extra classes when everyone else was heading to the beach for the summer.

I was called a liar when I broke my left hand and told one of my teacher’s I couldn’t take notes. I had to call my mom and have her confirm that I was in fact left handed.

These are just examples from my first year of high school, and they’re not the most serious ones. These are my differences though, they seem mild compared to having a missing limb or being fully blind, or even being singled out on race or sexual orientation, but they have caused me issues. I won’t even touch the matter of my social anxiety, or the years I struggled with depression, but I will say that until this day there are people out there saying that if a person is depressed it’s their fault for not doing something about their lives, not understanding that depression sometimes is something you feel without an actual cause. It wasn’t my case, I had a cause, but for people who are clinically depressed, many times it isn’t so.

Equality is stemmed from the principle that we are all the same and therefore must be treated equally for the world to be a better place, but giving everyone the exact same thing, often isn’t the same as giving everyone what they need.

As I’ve said before: know the difference

We are not equals and every attempt to bring fairness or acceptance to the world involves saying that we are and pretending that we are until we all buy that notion. Men and Women are not equals. Every race has its different traits, cultural and religious beliefs, language, are we to pretend otherwise? Yes, we are all human beings, but we are not equals.

I strongly believe that in order to make this world a better place it’s important to replace Equality with Acceptance. To not ignore the differences, but to acknowledge and embrace them. If people are afraid to see you for who you really are and need to mind their words so they won’t offend you, then they don’t truly accept you. It’s an illusion, it’s a lie, and we’ve already convinced ourselves a long time ago that this is the best we can really do for each other: take it or leave it.

B.B